Mismatched desire is one of the most common couples sexual problems and inevitably develops at times of stress in the individual or couple lifecycle e.g. during pregnancy, after the birth of a child, menopause, infertility, work and parenting stresses etc. For other couples, this mismatch in desire has been present in the relationship from the beginning, or begins after the “limerence” or falling in love period ends.
Unfortunately, a mismatch in desire can set up a cycle of blame and guilt which leads to a vicious cycle of pursuit and withdrawal in the relationship. This cycle can leave the couple feeling disconnected and bereft of any form of affection or fun which lays the foundation for emotional and physical intimacy.
Catherine will provide you with a thorough assessment of your relationship, taking into account all factors that may be contributing to this mismatch. Sometimes other issues (e.g. pelvic pain, past trauma, relationship violence) may need to be understood, acknowledged and addressed in their own right.
Once the assessment is completed, Catherine can help you understand your desire discrepancy and, where both partners are willing, to rebuild the friendship and intimacy through facilitating communication and negotiation of different needs.
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